I am finally done with my list of goals for the next 2.75 years! It took forever.
I stole a couple ideas from bloggie friends and made-up a bunch of my own. I may end-up changing a few if I think of something way better since a couple of them are a little lame.
But my list is complete. I now have something healthy to focus on instead of the grief day in and day out. I want to continue to do things for my babies - things that I can remember and honor them by...but I need to do things for myself too.
Thus, the 1001 list.
I'll post a separate tab on my blog to store the list so you can continue to check on my progress and see what I have accomplished. I'll report some of these items on posts as well.
I hope that while I am in in this never-ending waiting game, I'll find some peace, joy, and healing.
101 in 1001 list!
The Mission: Complete 101 pre-set tasks in a period of 1001 days.
The Criteria: Tasks must be specific with a result that is either measurable or clearly defined. Tasks must also be realistic and somewhat challenging. They should be something you want to accomplish or that will benefit you or others in some way.
Why 1001 Days? Many people have created lists in the past – frequently simple goals such as new year’s resolutions. The key to beating procrastination is to set a deadline that is realistic. 1001 Days (about 2.75 years) is a good amount of time because it allows you several seasons to complete the tasks, which is better for organizing and timing some tasks such as trips and outdoor activities.
Some common goal setting tips: 1) Be decisive. Know exactly what you want, why you want it, and how you plan to achieve it. 2) Stay Focused. Any goal requires sustained focus from beginning to end. Constantly evaluate your progress. 3) Welcome Failure. It presents the opportunity to learn and makes success more worthy. 4) Write down your goals. 5) Keep your goals in sight.
Here are my 101 ~
1. Make a pie from scratch. Crust and all.
2. Clean out and organize all closets in the house.
3. Organize our garage.
4. Lose 10 lbs.
5. Lose 20 lbs.
6. Bring home a baby.
7. Go to a Ballet or a play/theater performance.
8. Whiten my teeth.
9. Buy a new camera or new lenses.
11. Get one massage a year (3 total).
12. Go to at least 5 counseling sessions with a therapist.
13. Spend a weekend in pajamas and watch the extended versions of LOTR.
14. Finish M & A’s memory scrap book.
15. Visit a firing/shooting range.
16. Buy some kind of home security ‘weapon’.
17. Host a holiday meal/party at our house.
18. Landscape front and back yards.
19. Replace the light fixtures in the house.
20. Invite family from Ohio to come stay with us.
21. Join a book club, even if I have to start it myself.
22. Donate clothes we no longer wear.
23. Don’t use the snooze button for one week.
24. Learn how to knit or crochet and make something for someone.
25. Update the picture frames for our walls, to be hanged.
26. Go one month without fast food.
27. Take a train somewhere.
28. Send a friend a surprise in the mail, just because.
29. Get new tires for my car.
30. Re-watch LOST.
31. Cut hair short again (about shoulder length).
32. Compliment one person a day for two weeks.
33. Go to one concert a year.
34. Donate at least one dollar to charity each time the option comes-up (like at the grocery store)
35. Go to Chopsticks dueling piano bar.
36. Buy a screen for the back door.
37. Make lunch for yourself for two weeks straight.
38. Walk Charlie every day for a week (at least 30 mins).
39. Write and send someone a letter.
40. Buy new knives (block set).
41. Take a vacation out of state.
42. Don’t log onto Facebook for two weeks.
43. Meet a blogger friend in person.
44. Make homemade cheesecake or Key lime pie.
45. Take a yoga class.
46. Take a short class in something (cake decorating, pottery, etc).
47. Drink at least 6 glasses of water a day for two weeks.
48. Read three non-fiction books.
49. Cancel Macy’s card.
50. Paint our upstairs bathroom.
51. Make photobooks for California and Mexico trips.
52. Replace front and back outside lights.
53. Plant veggie/flower gardens into new beds.
54. Start a conversation with a stranger.
55. Go to dinner at Teatro ZinZanni.
56. Make your own pizza.
57. Sponsor a needy child.
58. Go on a road trip.
59. Replace our front door.
60. Donate Blood.
61. Try three new foods.
62. Buy 5 “just because” gifts for people.
63. Make a point to celebrate a pregnancy announcement by someone I love.
64. Talk to an acquaintance about my story.
65. Raise money for a worthy cause.
66. Help husband build new computer.
67. Reconnect with someone I lost touch with.
68. Stay one night in a “tree house” hotel.
69. Get Charlie’s teeth cleaned by the vet in his 6th year.
70. Write a poem in my babies’ name.
71. Make a donation to the Arbor Day Foundation in honor of the babies lost.
72. Cook a nice/romantic dinner for Mike.
73. Sort through M & A’s things to be donated, sold, or kept.
74. Come out of the infertility closet completely.
75. Join a gym.
76. Offer to babysit my nephew once a month (for 6 months) so my sis & BIL can go out.
77. Forgive myself.
78. Learn a song on the guitar.
79. See a dermatologist about a couple of moles I have.
80. Make jewelry for someone.
81. Sell some of our DVD’s on craigs.list
82. Go back for acupuncture treatments.
83. Do something special every October 12th.
84. Go ice skating.
85. Catch a fish.
86. Organize our file cabinet.
87. Mount tv & move media to new storage.
88. Only buy U.S. made products for 3 months.
89. Play a video game all the way through.
90. Take Charlie dog on vacation with us.
91. Go golfing.
92. Be part of a flash mob.
93. Hike to see M & A each summer.
94. Go see the Titanic in 3D (April 2012)
95. Go to a county fair.
96. Fix and use hot tub.
97. Eat breakfast for dinner.
98. Eat dessert for dinner.
99. Watch favorite childhood films: Dark Crystal, Never Ending Story, Labrynth, Princess Bride & Drop Dead Fred.
100. Make 5 CD's for people you love and mail it to them.
101. Take a walk in the rain with someone.
Start date: January 4, 2012 End date: October 1,2014